Finding inner peace : 5 ways for mums to protect their energy in everyday life

As I was getting my boys ready for daycare I was already thinking about what to make for dinner that day. And what are the things I need to get done? Not like that is enough for my head I doubled up with a mum guilt and started to compare myself to other mums. Questioning my way of doing things. I feel like a sponge that absorbs everything around me. I pick up positive and negative energy, which stays with me for a while. It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos and forget about the one thing that can make everything a little easier: my inner peace. Protecting your energy is a secret weapon for your happiness. When you take the time to calm your mind and focus on what keeps you grounded, you’ll be more present, and more patient. In this post, I will share how to protect your energy in everyday life, which can change the game for you as a mum.

1. Self-compassion

This is the most important step. Motherhood is full of challenges. Self-compassion gives you the same love, kindness and understanding you give your kids. I was struggling a lot with Mum’s guilt. I love social media because It allows us to connect and learn. But at the same time, I felt like I had to be the perfect mum like I have been seeing around social media. I compare myself to others and I would feel terrible for small mistakes, for not having a good day. It took me years to realise that I lack self-compassion. Once I learned to be more kind to myself. I felt lighter. I have been carrying this weight on my shoulders for so long. It doesn’t mean you are a bad mum when you have a tough day. Understand that you are doing your best. And don’t forget to take care of your physical and mental health. Prioritising self-care is essential. This allows you to be the best version of yourself and you can then take care of your family.

2. Surround Yourself with the Right People

You are responsible for stepping up and choosing what is right for you and letting go of what is not. People around you can influence your mental well-being so choosing your connection wisely can help protect your energy Having people who support and understand you can bring peace into your life. Being a mum is important to have someone who you can talk you and share all the ups and downs. Reminding you to take care of yourself and that you are taking this motherhood journey beautifully and uniquely the way you are. When you have a friendship that is based on respect and kindness you will find the peace. But if you are surrounded by people who judge you or make you feel a lot of self-doubt. This will drain your energy and it can become very toxic. Instead of embracing your motherhood journey, you will question yourself if you are doing this right. You will finally feel disconnected from your true self.

3. Embrace and release

I want to share an experience I had when I lost a friendship. It was unexpected and until now I still don’t have the answer to why it happened. For a while, I was trying to find the answer and blaming myself. In my head “ Is it because of what I did? What did I do wrong? This goes on and on and guess what at the end I still don’t have the answer. And it drained me. It affected my mental health. I wanted to know but then I asked myself what if I knew, Would it change anything? And the answer I had was no. it won’t change anything. I let it go. I will never know the reason and that is okay. People come into your life so you can learn from them and they go out of your life and you grow too. Be grateful for the great memories you had. When we can shift from negative energy to positive. We will find peace within.

4. Other’s opinions are not your truth

I know as a mum, I want the best for my children and I like to take notes on some advice from others. It’s great to take some advice from other people but not all will apply to your situation. People’s opinions are shaped by their own experiences. Some opinions may be loud but they don’t define who you are as a mum. Judgment or mean words come from their path and pain that they have not yet healed. You do not need to take that energy on. You have the power to rise above it all. Remember that you know your child best and you know what works for your family. Take notes on the good pieces of advice and the ones that align with your values.

5. Ground yourself

 The outside noise in our everyday life can’t be controlled and we can’t shut it down. But we can find peace inside ourselves by staying in the moment and learning to stay grounded. It can help you reset and protect your inner peace. Here are my favourite ways to stay grounded.

• Meditation or simple deep breathing. This will make you feel sudden calmness.
• Connect to nature. When I feel overwhelmed, I walk outside in my backyard with my bare foot on the grass. Take a look at the tree and notice little things like the moving leaf. This helps bring my mind to the present moment and I will find something I am grateful for like “I am so grateful I can breathe in this fresh air into my body” This can shift my negativity into positive energy.
• Journaling. Brian dumps your feelings in writing can help you find some clarity and release the overwhelming feeling you might have.
• Move your body –  I like to stretch if I feel like my body is tensing up moving the energy and bringing the awareness back to my body.

I want you all to know that motherhood journey is not easy but it is an incredible journey. My children come into my life to put up a mirror in front of my face and reflect on what I need to do to be a better person. They allowed me to look into myself and show me which part I needed to heal. They are helping me grow each day and I am forever grateful. I  want to be the best mum I can be for them so taking care of myself and protecting my energy is my priority. Finding inner peace can help us take on this journey with calmness. There will be some good days and not-so-good days and that is ok. Remember to be kind to yourself. Take a deep breath you are doing amazing.